Where is the First Place we Find Jesus?

Jesus at Creation, Day 1

25 Day advent, Jesus at Creation
25 Day Advent: Jesus at Creation

Jesus at Creation

“Does anyone know what Christmas is really about?” Charlie Brown and his buddy Linus have the answer. Remember the scene? In the hullabaloo of all things Christmas, Charlie Brown gets flustered to the point of exasperation. He knows something is amiss. All that he and his gang had been trying to wrap up in the name of Christmas just wasn’t setting right, and he knew there had to be more, but what?

Linus Cues the Lights

As he begins the well quoted passage out of Luke he tells a defeated friend what Christmas is all about.

…and this shall be a sign unto you, you shall find the babe wrapped in swaddling clothes lying in a manger…

Luke 2:12

In the Manger

It’s a pretty common first thought of Jesus in the Bible: Jesus in the manger. And why not? He is God in the flesh, and the manger is where we first see Him in this way. Much of our Christian faith is paved with this very familiar passage and its truth of Jesus born to a virgin, wrapped in swaddling clothes and set in a manger. What a beautiful picture of the day Jesus was Born; read more about that here.

Yet, that’s not the first place we find Jesus.

All in a Week’s Work

Here I sit on a day off; one dog at my feet contently snoring and another sleeping on my lap. The birds are singing outside on this beautiful day in the sun’s morning light, and a mug of freshly brewed coffee sits wafting a delicious autumn aroma.

I call that a perfect beginning to the weekend. Though my job isn’t what it used to be, I do remember the Monday-Friday and 8:00-5:00 (ish) all in a week’s work routine. And, I remember all the hope that making it to Friday, TGIF, would bring.

After five long days in the office, all in a week’s work ushered in the most exciting days of the week.

Days 6 & 7

What’s in your weekend plans? For many busy moms and wives, the usual Saturday/Sunday includes ordinary things such as taking time to clean up the house jobs that don’t get attention during the week, some laundry, and if you’re like me that means rewashing the load that you put in the washer a couple days ago, sports games or fun outings with the kids, maybe (and more often, should be, if you’re in a season of life that allows) a much needed date night, and likely rounding out the quick time off with church on Sunday morning.

In the Beginning

The Lord modeled the first “weekend” for here in Genesis. After speaking the world into existence:

  • First day – He created light
  • Second day – He created the sky
  • Third day – He created dry land, seas, plants and trees
  • Fourth day – He created the Sun, Moon and stars
  • Fifth day – He created all the creatures that live in the sea (and in the sky) the creatures that fly

Unlike you and me, God’s work was done through speaking it into existence. In the Beginning God Created. Period. Yet, because God is God, and our thoughts are not like His, creation at the sound of His voice is both just that simple and yet, infinitely more to it than we usually think about.

Event Planner

I’m an event planner. If all goes well, the end result of to every contract is a picture perfect, well organized, with every detail executed according to plan so that the occasion is thoroughly enjoyed by all.

That’s what everyone sees: the picture perfect end. After all, it is the culmination of all things considered. Yet, in my absence, there is no one else on payroll that can produce the end result. Why not? Simple, they’re not the planner and creator.

Even if I took all the elements to be included and put them in a room for them to use, what I have carefully planned cannot be brought to fruition without my guiding hand. In order for that end result look like I have designed it to be, I need to do it.

When God spoke the world into being, it was CREATOR God, His plan, His ideas, His thoughts, everything GOD made His voice created exactly the world as He wanted it to be.

Saturday

Back to days five and six; our Saturday is day six. Our Saturday are usually very busy. Our Saturday is one we look forward to putting our work-work aside and concentrating on “a day off.” God’s sixth day followed a big week of work, too. So much had been done on this earth by the time the sixth day came around, but God was far from finished.

Saturday was here. All the animals, birds, sea creatures were alive and living in their habitats created thoughtfully for each of them. The sun light and moon light shone down in what must have been the prettiest place on earth, The Garden of Eden.

No weeds. No trash. No death. No “circle of life” as God created life– without impending death; have you ever stopped to think about that?

And God made the beast of the earth according to its kind, cattle according to its kind, and everything that creeps on the earth according to its kind. And God saw that it was good.

Genesis 1: 25 

Death is not good. Fighting life to sustain life, isn’t good. Disease that comes from decaying carcasses isn’t good. God created life to live eternally.

Sixth Day

It was good. And God continues. His greatest creation of all -one unlike all the others and made after His own image- is about to enter the scene of life on earth. And, Creator God? He’s not alone. We often get straight to the point of God creating man that we overlook it, but please don’t miss the pronoun written in the 26th verse of the first chapter of the Bible.

Then God said, “Let Us make man in Our image, according to Our likeness. They will rule the fish of the sea, the birds of the sky, the livestock, all the earth, and the creatures that crawl on the earth.” 

Genesis 1:26

Our

Our is a plural possessive pronoun in Genesis 1:26. Whose image? OUR image. Who is Our? God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. Our triune God was present at creation, and that means, Jesus His Son was right there in the beginning.

In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. 

John 1:1

Quoting the Old Testament was common in New Testament writing. We see that here in John 1:1 as John refers back to the beginning -Genesis-when talking in New Testament ways about Jesus…In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. 

Moving along in the book of John this time as Jesus is preparing for His death-and preparing His disciples for the same- we see again who Jesus is and we realize more clearly His unmistakable presence at Creation.

6. Jesus told them, “I am the way, the truth, and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me. 7. If you know Me, you will also know My Father. From now on you do know Him and have seen Him.” 8. “Lord,” said Phillip, “show us the Father, and that is enough for us.” 8. Jesus said to him, “Have I been among you all this time without your knowing Me, Phillip? The one who has seen Me has seen the Father. How can you say, ‘Show us the Father? 10. Don’t you believe that I am in the Father and the Father is in Me? The words I speak to you I do not speak on My own. The Father who lives in Me does HIs works. Believe Me that I am in the Father and the Father is in Me. Otherwise, believe because of the works themselves.”

John 14:6-10

When in Genesis we read about the creation of man in, “Our image,” and we read of the inseparability of God the Father and God the Son (as well as the Holy Spirit), we have the assurance that Jesus was present at creation.

Jesus at Creation

How exciting is this truth? Our God shows us so much in His Word as we take the time to read and meditate on it. Look again at that one verse:

Then God said, “Let US make man in OUR image, according to OUR likeness…”

Genesis 1:26

Years ago my brother visited Africa. He was in poor villages abounding with children, at one point. Some of my favorite photographs from his entire Safari included those beautiful children. If you can remember back to the days of early digital cameras, long before we had phones that have cameras on them, that’s what he took with him to capture photographs.

Knit Together

Here he was surrounded at once by curious children. They wanted to see who came to their home and know about them. Each of those faces, all different, created by The Father:

For it was You who created my inward parts; You knit me together in my mother’s womb. I will praise You because I have been remarkably and wonderfully made. Your works are wonderful, and I know this very well. 

Psalm 139:13-14 HCSB

Back to Africa. Each knit together by our Father, each with a uniqueness to him/her, yet never knowing their own image. You see, they didn’t have cameras, or mirrors. Most of those sweet faces looking into my brother’s eyes had never seen their own face.

Then he pulled out his little digital camera, took a picture of them, and flipped it around. He said they were ecstatic and enthralled to see their own likeness.

Let US make man in OUR Image.

Can we consider the fact that God created man in “Our Image,” and to do so would mean that each of them also had an image already. Jesus was made flesh as Mary’s womb held Him, but His image wasn’t born on what we celebrate as that first Christmas Day, and Jesus born in a manger. No, His image was established long before.

Jesus at Creation

Now, when we think of Jesus, and we think of the manger, His life, and the cross, maybe we will remember His presence in the very beginning: Jesus at Creation. If you think about it, look how much it matters!

See you here next time where we will look at more scripture and find Jesus again.

What’s the #1 thing I would do differently? Homeschool Hindsight

What’s the one thing I would do differently?

I can offer a lot of advice on many different categories involving homeschooling, parenting, teaching, church etc based on a journey of pits and peaks while walking these paths with the Lord for the past 36 years. And I am happy to help anyone w/anything the Lord allows me to in this regard.

HOWEVER, I want to share the one thing that stands far and above anything else when it comes to hindsight now that my children are adults. Want to know what it is?

First, some things it is NOT:

*Starting my children earlier in formal learning.

*Insisting on better grades or mastering in any subject.

*Choosing easier or, conversely, more challenging curriculum.

*Spending more time at home, more time in extracurriculars or even more time in the church.

*Being diligent in character training is great, but not a remiss there, either.

*Reading God’s Word: BUT it is hard to say I wish I wouldn’t have spent more time there-for myself in some seasons, for my kids at other times, because how could that not be something I wouldn’t want more of in our lives? It’s a close one, to say the least.

That said, what is hands down the one thing I would have done more of, given a do-over (not withstanding God’s wonderful grace for today)?

I would pray more.

I encourage you to do the same now while those children are there under your wings. Stay close to the Lord, do His will, for He hears our prayers when we’re walking with Him:

We know that God does not listen to sinners, but if anyone is a worshiper of God and does his will, God listens to him.

John 9:31

Do not love the world or the things that belong to the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in him. For everything that belongs to the world: the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life, is not from the Father but is from the world. And the world with its lusts will pass away, but the one who does God’s will lives forever.

I John 2:15-17

…and pray more, Mommas.

With Love, Tamara

How to find time for yourself?

Staying at home is a hard job

Staying at home is a hard job for many women. For those following the Lord, our greatest ministry and fulfillment is at home as a wife and mom, according to Titus 2. So, how do we do with with joy?

Older women, likewise, are to be reverent in their behavior, not slanderers or addicted to much wine, but teachers of good. In this way they can teach the young women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled, pure, managers of their households, kind, and submissive to their own husbands, so that the word of God will not be discredited.

Titus 2:3-5

Therefore, as difficult as it may be for us, how can we learn to find joy, create joy and be joyful in this divine calling over our lives? Is there space for ourselves? There sure needs to be.

How to find time for yourself?

When we’re at home with the children, homeschooling, shuttling and keeping the house running smoothly-or not-the question is: how to find time for yourself?

There is a way

My first question for you (and me) is, how do you start your day-what does that look like?

Do we realize and live our dependency on the Lord and getting to know Him more personally? Are we spending time alone with Him (and maybe that hot cup of coffee)? That’s where we need to start, with the Lord and our priority of Him in our lives no matter what season we find ourselves.

Are we desiring to spend with our Lord?

First things first. It may not always look the same, but it should be a gnawing of our heart to find ourselves alone, together, before our Lord and Savior.

Early Risers?

 From there, when we have young children who are early risers, and we are rightfully out of steam when the night draws in, finding a way to get up before them is essential in our sanity and our growth with the Lord. At times where we struggle with long nights, sick days, circumstances demanding urgent attention (these are not long standing times), our time with the Lord may be a quiet reliance of ongoing prayer and praise within our hearts and overflowing from our mouths as we walk with Him in the valley. 

Focus on Praise

Days where we struggle to open our eyes can be focussed on praise, thanksgiving of who we know God to be. As our hearts are pure and full of God’s presence we can overflow that into our day through song and prayer. Be mindful, friends, we can’t find something good from our hearts that isn’t there.

The good man brings good things out of his good store of treasure, and the evil man brings evil things out of his evil store of treasure.

Matthew 12:35

Keep thy heart with all diligence; for out of it are the issues of life.

Proverbs 4:23

We have to put in the time and effort to fill our hearts with the Lord if we expect Him to overflow from us! We serve a living, loving God not a Jeanie in a Bottle. The Lord give us direction and instruction to live life with Him. His blessings are too many to count, but we have a work to do, too.

Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think on these things.

Philippians 4:6-8


Living with Chronic Realities


Yet, there are times and some of us who do have a chronic and constant need for our attention beyond a ‘season.’ For us, the weight of constant caregiving it’s a way of life. God knows. And, even there, He desires to be with us.

But he gives us more grace. That is why Scripture says: “God opposes the proud but shows favor to the humble.” Submit yourselves, then, to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Come near to God and he will come near to you.

James 4:6-7

The answers aren’t easy. Not easy to come up with and not easy to follow through. Yet, where there is a struggle, there is great promise of refreshing joy with the Lord.

Rest in God alone, O my soul, for my hope comes from Him.

Psalm 62:5

The LORD is my strength and my shield; my heart trusted in him, and I am helped: therefore my heart greatly rejoiceth; and with my song will I praise him…

Psalm 28:7-8

Making Adjustments

A little less sleep, an adjustment to our schedule, a breather from some way and somebody that we may refuel in the only way that will not only sustain us but fill us with joy.In the ordinary ebb and flow with life, we need to make necessary adjustments in our own personal life as well as our life with our children.

If you live in an area where the weather changes, you know what it means to make the adjustment based on external circumstances. Rain, snow, ice, sun/heat come at us either expectantly or out of the blue. What do we do? We make the adjustment or suffer until/unless we do. 

Children can be Taught

Children can be taught to be patient, to wait, to anything we determine is right and necessary for the time. I had a friend who would send her earliest wakers back up to their room to wait quietly until it was time to get up because she was spending that time with the Lord. As a young newlywed my eyes bugged out of my head at such a thought. Now? Now I realize the wisdom she was sharing with me more than 30 years ago.

Wise Advice

We need to hear and share that kind of godly and wise advice. What can you do in your home to foster a path for you to spend that time with the Lord in the life circumstance you’re in right now? Teach littles to stay quietly in their room first thing and get up a bit before them? Stay up later with only your Bible, journal, study etc and a cup of tea? (The clock is getting ready to go backwards, it might be something to consider.)

Train Your Children to Help

Train your children to help in keeping the home so you’re not doing things they’re capable of doing? Instead of running ragged cleaning early or late, you can take that time with the Lord, and maybe a hobby, too! Think about the things you do as mom and wife that no one else can do. Now, everything else? That’s where teaching others to do and be responsible for it comes in.Sometimes, what we stress over doesn’t really need to be done. At least, it’s not more important that the things we’re not doing in order to accomplish them. 

Check your expectations

Check your expectations. Ah, full circle here. The more time we spend with the Lord, the better sense of what we need to do and the clearer our heart is to who we need to BE. Haughty expectations, or ourselves, our children, our home, our husband, our marriage… can sink us-with the whole crew.

Ask God to search your heart. Are your desires pleasing to Him? Or, are there places where you’re setting yourself and your family up for disappointment and destruction?

Picture Perfect is for Pinterest

Picture perfect homes is for Pinterest! That’s not real life. Nothing wrong with a neat home and a housecleaning service, but the be careful here.

I used to be that mom/wife. The house had to be/look/operate in such a way as I imagined in my own head. My poor husband when he’d dare open up our home without notice to me! Oh, what a mess I made over the years-in every way.

What was I thinking? I was striving to please some picture I’d painted in my own head of how things should be or look. BUT, I wasn’t pleasing my Lord in the effort and I sure wasn’t making a joyful home in the process-far from it. 

More Joy, More Jesus!

More joy. More Jesus. It’s worth whatever adjustments we need to make, and make again as our lives change with time. This is also what our children will learn from as they grow. Time alone with the Lord, learning, listening, obeying, seeking, repenting, loving and following Him IS what we should all desire as Believers. Love the Lord with our ALL.

Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’

Mark 12:30

The Bottom Line

Really, that’s the bottom line. No matter what life brings, or where the Lord takes us season to season, day to day-always changing, He wants us to walk with Him moment by moment, and to love Him with all our heart, soul, mind and strength.

If staying at home feels like a heavy assignment for you, it’s because it is. Learning to love the Lord with everything we have isn’t for the faint of heart. It takes work, and adjustments. It means priority is lived out as proof of commitment. That’s what we want from our husbands who love us, right?

When you love someone, when you say someone is most important to you, there should be action and effort to show it. Same with the us and the Lord.

There is no greater joy than walking with the Lord. He is good. He is loving; full of grace and truth. He is just and merciful. Oh, to know Him more.

If you want to learn even more about Him, check out 21 Names of God series HERE. Just a glimpse of Him and our lives are changed.

I’m praying for you: Make the adjustment. Walk with the Lord today!

If I Knew Then What I Know Now

What 3 decades of parenting and homeschooling have taught me.

I met a man

Not long after I graduated from college, I met and in quick succession married my husband. I still remember the excitement of that time, now nearly 35 years ago. Most of us can finish the following with great assurance: If I knew then what I know now… Am I right?

If I knew then

Though my heart’s passion is often for helping Christian women in their marriages, today there is something different on my heart. This time, the same fill in the blank is in effect, but as it relates to parenting. I’m still learning (each child is so different), but I’ve learned some things in the past nearly 3 decades the Lord has blessed me being Mom to my amazing children. (Thank You, Lord!)

I had a lot to learn

I always knew I would sacrifice whatever the costs and however I could manage to stay home when the Lord blessed us with a baby. But this young career woman had a lot to learn. If I knew then what I know now (and some just really good reminders):

  • Holding babies is never a waste of time.
  • A clean house is not a prerequisite to (graciously) welcoming a visitor.
  • Bad days come (and go) whether you’re in an office building working, running errands/out grabbing groceries, or at home teaching and training up children for the Lord.
  • Don’t blame life’s circumstances for life’s ebb and flow of joys/trials. (Check in with the Lord for changes needed, but hard things and difficult times don’t mean you’re doing life wrong. Many are the afflictions of the righteous, don’t forget!
  • Training takes time.
  • Training takes reminders. And do-overs. And atto-boys (girls)! And patience on every side.
  • Discipline and punishment are not synonymous.
  • Never has a woman been born who can be in two places at one time. Myself included. You, too!
  • I don’t need to do everything.
  • I cannot do everything.
  • Delegating the things that don’t require my touch as “Mom” or “Wife” is wise. Keeping that list current is even wiser.
  • Everyone doesn’t have to do things my way. I will refrain from repeatedly making this point on my list here, but not in my life regularly.
  • Micromanaging is problematic to all involved.
  • Character matters…starting with my own.
  • Spilled milk, broken dishes…are accidents, not character issues (typically). Let it go.
  • You cannot read good literature too often to your babies, toddlers…even teens.
  • Doing right is always right. Always worthy. Always worth it. Don’t grow weary in well doing, your reward awaits!
  • Children really do learn what they live. Pay attention.
  • Forgiveness and grace are as necessary as truth, discipleship, and accountability. Don’t try to live without either side of the scales of balance in these life necessities.
  • Life does not get less time-demanding the older the children grow.
  • Older children/teenagers need our presence differently but just as importantly as do our babies. Don’t plan on being less busy with a lot more time on your hands as your children grow up. An empty nest will be here sooner than you know.
  • Sacrifice is part of godly parenting (and marriage, and following Christ), and by definition, means “a loss.” Never has “well done” accompanied any of them without some sense of self-sacrifice and loss. Expect nothing less.
  • Success and faithfulness are not necessarily intertwined. Be careful of which you reach and strive for; for yourself and for your children.
  • Seeking and/or expecting perfection, from yourself or others, is the surest path to failure. Jesus alone is perfect. We all fall short: count on it!
  • Life is a marathon, not a sprint. Sanctification through Jesus is ongoing. Learning to be a godly woman, wife and mom is a big part of the journey. We can’t put the cart before the horse, but we can trust the Lord to steer us in righteousness and holiness as we follow where He leads us.
  • Asking for help is not a sign of inability or unwillingness. We are not alone in this life for a reason. Reach out when you need to. Help where you’re able.
  • You’ll never have more time in your day. You probably won’t find the place where things calm down (wherever that is.) Learn to prioritize what matters most, beginning with your relationship with the Lord. From there, honor Him in who you are and what you do in this life He gives you. Everything else will then follow suit.
  • Children do grow up in a blink of an eye. Our time with them under our wings, teaching them about the Lord when they rise, sleep, walk, talk, run, and live in our homes is a fleeting, divine assignment. Don’t fall for the evil lies of easier, wiser, better. Whatever it takes, stay on the path the Lord has designed for you, for them. It won’t last forever on this earth, but forever is the goal, eternally.
  • There is always a reason to be thankful. Find it. Say it. Teach it to your children. Look forward to what blessings tomorrow will bring.

We will serve the Lord

But if serving the LORD seems undesirable to you, then choose for yourselves this day whom you will serve, whether the gods your ancestors served beyond the Euphrates, or the gods of the Amorites, in whose land you are living. But as for me and my household, we will serve the LORD.”

Joshua 24:15

How to Homeschool Someone who Hates Academics

Homeschooled and Hated Academics

He Hated Academics

The baby who made me a mom is now an incredible 27 year old man who will always have part of my heart. Maybe you’re homeschooling one like him. Someone who hates academics and would rather be doing anything else.

Don’t Be Discouraged

Don’t be discouraged on the hard days when writing and math is a struggle. Keep your heart and your eyes steadfastly fixed on Jesus.

Trust the Lord

Trust the Lord, this isn’t much about algebra, after all. The future belongs to the Lord…teach your children about Him and His ways today and every tomorrow you get with them.

Weave in the Acadmics

Weave into learning to love the Lord with all their heart, soul and might the ABC’s & 123’s now, so that, prayerfully, they will do the same when those things are replaced with adult assignments such as work, a spouse and children.

Don’t Try to Be God

Don’t try to be God, but teach them they need Him…and trust Him as you do.

Being confident of this very thing, that he which hath begun a good work in you will perform it until the day of Jesus Christ:

Philippians 1:6

For women at home

He calmed the storm to a

whisper, and the waves of the

sea were hushed.

Psalm 107:29

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